Twenty questions. Nobody sees the answers but you.

Two questions for each of the ten areas. Give yourself 2 if it's true, 1 if it's sometimes true, 0 if it's not. At the end you'll see where you're strong, where you're coasting, and the one place to start.

I have had a check-up with blood tests in the last 12 months

I have the energy I need to get through the day

I have a mate I could ring at 2am

I spend time with other men at least once a week

Most days I feel steady, not flat or on edge

When something is wrong, I have someone I tell

My partner and I talk about more than logistics

I still do small things for her, most weeks

I'm happy with my sex life

I could talk to a doctor about it if I needed to

I could describe who I am without mentioning work or money

I have something I'm good at that isn't my job

I know roughly what I'm worth and what I owe

I have a plan for the next ten years, not just this one

I spend one-on-one time with each of my kids most weeks

My kids would say I'm involved, not just around

I could take three nights off drinking without noticing

My phone or screens don't eat my evenings

I'm building towards something I care about

I wake up most days with a reason beyond the bills

You're not over the hill. You're just getting started.

A better man. A better world.